The Flag Guide
Every flag on Flags, what it means, and who can see it — the full 36-flag catalog across all three layers.
Connection
The base layer everyone sees — matching signals plus five system/trust states.
Green Flag Public
A positive compatibility signal: this trait or choice works especially well for me.
Spark Flag Public
There is immediate chemistry, intrigue, or an exciting conversational connection.
Hot Flag Public
A strong attraction signal expressed in a playful, direct way.
Crush Flag Private or mutual
A playful romantic interest that is warmer than a spark but not a commitment signal.
Keeper Flag Private or mutual
The connection feels unusually compatible and may have serious potential.
Slow Burn Flag Public
Interested, with a preference for building trust and attraction gradually.
First Move Flag Public
Open to being approached, or feeling ready to initiate a conversation.
Verified Human Flag Public
The account completed the app's identity or authenticity checks.
Not user-selectable
Catfish Alert Flag System-controlled
A potential profile or identity mismatch requires a trust-and-safety review.
Not user-selectable
Ghost Flag System-controlled
A conversation has gone inactive because a participant stopped responding.
Not user-selectable
In Timeout Flag System-controlled
The account or interaction is temporarily paused or restricted.
Not user-selectable
Blocked Flag System-controlled
The viewer has blocked this account, so contact and interaction are disabled.
Not user-selectableENM & Kink
A separate, opt-in layer for ENM and kink identity, values, and roles. Never mixed into the Connection layer's discovery surface.
Consent First Flag Public
Explicit, enthusiastic, ongoing consent is foundational.
Boundaries Matter Flag Public
Values clear limits, direct communication, and respect for changing boundaries.
Aftercare Flag Public
Values care, grounding, and reconnection after intense or vulnerable experiences.
Open to ENM Flag Public
Open to consensual non-monogamous relationship structures.
Kitchen Table Flag Public
Comfortable with connected, cordial relationships among partners and metamours.
Parallel Poly Flag Public
Prefers relationships to remain more independent, with limited metamour interaction.
Solo Poly Flag Public
Centers personal autonomy and does not organize life around a primary-style partnership.
Comet Connection Flag Public
An occasional but meaningful recurring connection, often with significant time apart.
Kink Curious Flag Public
Exploring kink and interested in learning, asking questions, and moving thoughtfully.
Dominant Flag Public
Identifies with or enjoys a dominant role or energy in negotiated dynamics.
Submissive Flag Public
Identifies with or enjoys a submissive role or energy in negotiated dynamics.
Switch Flag Public
Enjoys more than one role or energy depending on the connection and negotiation.
Friends, Mentors & Events
Platonic connection: friendship, mentorship, collaboration, and events.
New Friend Flag Public
Open to meeting people for a new platonic connection.
Bestie Energy Flag Private or mutual
A playful signal of unusually strong friendship chemistry.
Activity Buddy Flag Public
Looking for company for a hobby, class, routine, sport, or recurring activity.
Mentor Flag Public
Available to offer guidance, perspective, or subject-matter support.
Mentee Flag Public
Looking to learn, grow, and receive guidance in a particular area.
Collaborator Flag Public
Interested in making, building, practicing, or solving something together.
Event Host Flag Public
Organizing, hosting, or facilitating an event or gathering.
Not user-selectable
Going Flag Event context
Confirmed attendance for an event.
Maybe Flag Event context
Interested in an event but not yet committed.
Coffee Chat Flag Public
Open to a casual one-to-one conversation in person or online.
Adventure Buddy Flag Public
Looking for company for outdoor plans, travel, exploring, or spontaneous experiences.
Community Builder Flag Public
Actively brings people together and helps a group feel connected.